For high-conflict divorce

Out-prepare a narcissist in family court.

Family court does not run on what happened. It runs on what you can prove. This workbook gives you the documentation system, the word-for-word scripts, and the court-prep checklists to walk in ready.

Plain and practical, built from lived experience. Not legal advice.

you're not paranoid. you're under-documented.

Cover of the Divorcing a Narcissist Workbook by Daniel Reeves 8×10 fill-in workbook

The Workbook

The paperwork itself, not another book about it.

Most books tell you what to do. This one is the tool you do it with. Every page is built to be filled in, dated, and handed to your attorney.

A documentation system that turns "he said, she said" into dated, court-ready records.
BIFF reply scripts for answering hostile messages without making it worse. (BIFF: brief, informative, friendly, firm.)
A DARVO and paper-terrorism worksheet to name the pattern the moment it happens.
Parallel-parenting scripts for the times when working together is not possible.
Court-prep checklists for the weeks, days, and hours before a hearing.
A quick-reference section you can photocopy and keep in your bag.
Get it on Amazon $19.99 paperback

The habit that wins

A dated record beats memory.

The people who do best in high-conflict cases are not the loudest. They are the most organized. Write it down while it is fresh, and let the paper speak for you when it counts.

write it down while it's fresh.

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Free companion

The Divorce Documentation Toolkit

Twenty ready-made logs and trackers in one spreadsheet. Make a private copy, fill in only the tabs that fit your situation, and bring a clean record to every attorney meeting.

Incident Log Communication Log DARVO Tracker Financial Abuse Tracker Court Date Tracker Motion & Filing Log Attorney Meeting Log Children's Statements Evidence Checklist Go-Bag Checklist Weekly Self-Care Post-Decree Violations

Twenty tabs in all. Use what you need, skip the rest.

Who it's for

This is for you if

You are in, or heading toward, a high-conflict divorce or custody case.
You need a system for proof, not one more article telling you it is hard.
You want words you can send today, not theory to read later.
You are doing this with a full legal team, one busy attorney, or mostly on your own.

Narcissistic husbands and narcissistic wives run the same playbook, so this works for either. It is not legal advice and does not replace your attorney. It makes you a client who is easy to help.

Survival is strategy too

Take care of yourself while you fight.

You cannot document from empty. The toolkit includes a weekly self-care tracker for sleep, movement, and calm, because steady beats frantic in a long case.

rest is part of the plan.

Daniel Reeves, author
still in it.

About the author

Daniel Reeves

Daniel Reeves is a father of two who spent years trying to understand why his marriage felt impossible. A therapist was the one who finally helped him name it: narcissistic abuse.

By then he was already in a divorce that had become a custody battle. He hired a Minor's Counsel so his children would have their own legal voice. He fought to get his kids into therapy. He built the incident logs and communication systems that changed how his case moved forward.

He is not a therapist or an attorney. He is a dad who learned the hard way that documentation protects children. He is still in it. The workbook and the toolkit are what he wished someone had handed him at the start.

Questions

Good questions to ask first

Is this legal advice?
No. The workbook and toolkit help you organize your own records and communicate clearly. They are not legal advice and do not replace a licensed attorney in your state.
Does it work if the narcissist is a husband or a wife?
Yes. Narcissistic husbands and narcissistic wives run the same playbook. The system works either way.
What format is the workbook?
A print, fill-in workbook, 8 by 10 inches. You write in it by hand, date each entry, and bring it to attorney meetings and court.
How do I get the free toolkit?
Enter your email in the toolkit section above. We send you a link to make your own private copy of the Google Sheet. Your copy stays private to you.